Clarity - Live Life Well

Hi, I'm Nic & I offer counselling in Sevenoaks & Tonbridge. I can support you with perimenopause & menopause therapy, along with helping you to manage your stress & anxiety, raise your confidence & self-esteem, address difficult relationships as well as process any unresolved trauma & grief. All of which can come up for us in midlife. Therapy can be face to face, on-line (Zoom), via telephone or walk & talk therapy. Helping you find clarity for lasting positive change, to live life well.

About Me

I’m a qualified, experienced counsellor (therapist), supporting you with perimenopause & menopause, stress & anxiety, grief & loss, relationships and confidence & self-esteem.My background is in HR, 23 years in corporate life in fact – training, recruitment, learning and development, requiring my coaching, mentoring and from time to time counselling skills. Over time I noticed my passion to want to help people at a deeper level, so I decided to become a counsellor and coach. I didn’t look back.

Working in Sevenoaks.

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Helping you find clarity

You’ll find more information here about what I can help with and how I use the combination of my counselling, coaching and hypnotherapy skills to help you make the lasting positive changes you want. So if there is something that might be taking you off track at the moment, in making this happen, get in touch with me.

I am based in Tonbridge, offering face to face sessions at  7 oaks Counselling, Sevenoaks, as well as therapy via telephone, video (Zoom) & walk & talk.

I offer a free informal 20-minute session so that you can see if I’m the right counsellor for you, to make sure you feel comfortable moving forward with therapy.

You can book a session here:

Or, alternatively, drop me a line for support, using the form or the details below.




Counselling can help you make positive emotional change in your life when you are faced with issues such as perimenopause & menopause, stress & anxiety, grief & loss, relationships and confidence & self-esteem.

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Perimenopause & Menopause

Talking therapy can help support you during this time of transition, personal loss, change & opportunity. It’s a chance to create the life you choose to live for the rest of your life. Your midlife matters.

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Helping You

Counselling can help improve self, relationships and family dynamics. For some it is about taking some out to reflect on their own personal journey and growth.  Having therapy can help provide true insight, support and new approaches to different life challenges.  I can help you take an honest look at your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, learn more about yourself and take control and responsibility for bringing about lasting positive change.

Perimenopause & Menopause

Physical & emotional experiences of perimenopause and menopause can be challenging & debilitating. I can help you explore the sense of personal loss during midlife, as well as the opportunities it brings.

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Stress & Anxiety

We have underlying causes and triggers for our stress & anxiety be it life style changes or career or work issues to name a few.

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Whatever your relationship issue, be it with yourself, family, close friend or partner, I can work with you individually to explore your needs and gain perspective on what you want from your relationship with them, as well as working with you and your partner together.

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Grief & Loss

Loss comes in many forms, but most recognisably the death of someone you were close to and who was important to you.

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Confidence & Self-esteem

If you are lacking confidence & self-esteem, I can work with you on exploring its origins and becoming more assertive, confident and self-aware.

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A Renewed You

My backstory and supporting you with counselling

I imagine that you are contemplating counselling, to see if it is right for you – the opportunity to talk about issues that may be impacting on your life can help bring clarity and together we can realise what your choices and resources are and find solutions, to get you back on track.

I won’t baffle you with qualifications or letters after my name, yet I can share with you my backstory and how counselling may well help you. So, tune in and listen to my intro and how I can potentially support you.


I came to Nic when I was suffering quite badly with high anxiety levels. I'd suffered with menopausal anxiety and after being treated for breast cancer my anxiety levels were heightened after the treatment and with taking post cancer medication. Nic used the Embers model to help me understand what my body was going through during menopause and post cancer. I found by talking through the symptoms with Nic and looking at changes I could make to my diet, lifestyle, approach to work and home life, I was able to focus on the changes I needed to make to help me cope with the symptoms. I have gradually tweaked different aspects of my life and this has really helped to bring my anxiety levels down. I am now starting to feel much more relaxed, have taken my foot off the gas pedal and am able to enjoy life again. Thanks Nic for helping me to get back on track.

I sought Nic’s counselling service because I felt I had reached a point in my life where I needed to reset my life and my goals. I had been struggling with peri-menopause symptoms for some years and these were impacting on my life and work to an extent that that I could no longer see my way ahead. Nic’s expertise as a counsellor enabled me to listen to my inner-voice and guided me towards reconnecting with my true self. Nic showed great understanding and empathy throughout our sessions, and this allowed us to discuss thought-provoking questions that opened my mind to my broader situation and introduced new possibilities. I cannot recommend Nic highly enough - I have been able to reach a much happier and contented place as a result of our sessions and feel that this has helped to heal my physical symptoms by reducing my levels of stress as well as gaining new perspectives that are taking me forward into a much more confident future. Thank you, Nic.

Nic put me back on track, so I now have a clear vision of my way forward following bereavement on several levels. I was getting bogged down in loss and personal insecurity, but Nic gave me clarity. When researching personal counsellors Nic stood out as a genuine, caring insightful, professional, and most importantly, an ‘emotional friend’. Nic provided a safe space for me to talk with no judgement, not only exploring recent losses but also life experiences. She has the ability to draw out deep seated emotions in a non-threatening way as well as offer supportive ideas and guidance to explore issues between sessions so you feel that you are making real progress.. She has made a real difference to my life.

I decided to seek counselling as I had been unhappy for a few years and I couldn’t see any way out. Nic helped me question and understand myself in a calming non-judgemental way so I could find the answers I needed and realise there were indeed options. She gave me the confidence to overcome my anxiety and make major changes in my personal and work life. We also explored the background of my regular night terrors and put in place methods to deal with these which have since completely stopped. I just wish I had done this years ago, as after making all these changes my life has now taken a new much happier direction, that I never thought would be possible.

"Thank you very much Nic, you made the sessions a safe and happy space. I always felt comfortable and that I was in good hands. Nic always demonstrated empathy, compassion and calmness but also a curiosity and open-mindedness that helped me see and approach new situations differently going forward."

Nic’s approach to therapy is so refreshing. Connection is so important, and I found this with Nic straight away. She provides you the space and time to walk through whatever it is in a gentle relaxed manner free from judgement. Nic held the torch, whilst I embarked on a journey of self-discovery working through my traumas of loss, emotional abuse and life changing events. I truly gained ‘clarity’ in every aspect of my life to ‘live life well’ feeling empowered and stronger.

"I attended counselling with Nic for several months to help me work through my grief after bereavement. Our sessions together helped me make sense of what I was going through and acted as a safety valve for me through difficult times. Our work together enabled me to begin accepting my loss and understand how I could live a positive life despite my grief."

Get In Touch

I offer face to face sessions at 7 Oaks Counselling, Sevenoaks, as well as offering alternatives. These are telephone,  video (Zoom) or walk & talk.

You can book a session here:

Or, alternatively, drop me a line for support, using the form or the details below.


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